Looking back over the first 38 years of my life it is clear now that the way I approached life, and the way I thought about and treated myself were classic symptoms of the perfectionist mindset. Of course I never labelled myself as one, because I didn't think I had actually achieved anything worthwhile, let … Continue reading I used to think my perfectionism was good…but I was wrong.
The 5th Habit for INNER Confidence is to cultivate and practice the skills that will help you manage your Ego vs Soul inner battle, and build confidence and resilience through repeated practice. The three key skills that cultivate happiness and peace of mind are so simple and easy to practice. You can start today. You … Continue reading 5 Habits for INNER Confidence – Step 5: Resilience Building
If you want to be guided by your true Soul Voice (or you could say, your heart, God, The Universe, inner wisdom, Source - whatever feels right for you), you need to learn how to quieten your fear-based Ego Voice. The first step is to identify the voices in your head, so you can distinguish … Continue reading INNER Confidence – Step 4: Ego Management (aka quieten those pesky negative voices)
To be happy you need to tune into your inner wisdom and nourish your Soul. This is the most crucial Habit, because without this step you remain unconnected to your true self, and therefore lose your capacity for that strong, unmoveable inner joy, fulfilment and alignment. Let me say this again: connecting, nurturing and strengthening … Continue reading INNER Confidence – Step 3: Nourish Your Soul
Habit 2: Notice what is going on in your head. Knowledge is power. As we discussed in Habit 1, we all have conflicting desires, thoughts, opinions and beliefs that have developed from our evolution, our upbringing, our experiences and our culture. To help understand and deal with the ebb and flow of all these influences I … Continue reading INNER Confidence – Step 2: Notice What’s Being Said in Your Head?
Happiness is all in the mind. This idea is controversial in some circles, but is being increasingly backed up by science, especially in neurology, positive psychology and mindfulness research . How we think – the way we use our unique and staggeringly powerful brain – determines how we act and feel, and ultimately, therefore, … Continue reading INNER Confidence – Step 1: I’m OK
Last week I had a meltdown. A perfectionist, beat-myself-up, my-life-is-doomed type of meltdown. It wasn't pretty. I said horrible things about myself that I've never ever said in front of my children. I kicked and threw things around the kitchen, slammed doors, shouted and ranted about the house like a spoilt brat. It was triggered … Continue reading Vulnerability feels like Sh*t!!