How many times do you find yourself reacting to the people around you or the circumstances you are in as if you are on autopilot and have no choice how to behave? And how many times do you notice this has happened after the event, rather than during or even before?
Very often? Yes, me too.
Our habitual emotional responses are triggered many times each day, and personally I’m not happy about it! Reacting automatically often means that I act in a basic, selfish, uncivilised kind of way, as if my intelligent, rational self has been bypassed. I respond like a child or chimp would. I don’t want to keep making the same mistakes over and over again, but I find it really hard to stop myself.
Here is a tip that I was given by an amazing woman who definitely lives life to the full. When you feel yourself being pushed along by your emotional reactions, or pulled into a fight by someone else, say the following mantra to yourself and take control of your response.
“I’m not a fish!” “I am not a fish!”
Let me know how you get on.